"This book helps readers through the biggest repair
project of them all: mending a broken heart. And although the book is aimed at men, there’s plenty of advice that
women can use in it too."
Journal Sentinel (WI)
"With the help of professional grief
counselor Bekkers, Schaefer writes about his experience of losing his young wife to breast cancer. His aim is to ease the
pain of men in similar situations; to accomplish this, he provides 41 activities, e.g., reach out to others and honor their
spouse's memory. Since men are hesitant to pick up self-help books, this could be safely given as a gift or used by a
social worker or religious counselor." - The Library Journal (National)
“Gerald J. Schaefer joined with Tom Bekkers, MSW, APSW, … provide an excellent
guide for grieving men that sets them on the path to healing. Together they provide a wealth of information and advice
on such things as organizing household tasks, resolving issues that prevent healing, handling children’s special needs,
and learning to love again.” – Alan Caruba Bookviews - National Book Critics Circle (National)
"As a professional working in the field of bereavement I have come to truly appreciate
the complexity of individuals experiencing grief and the resources that will "speak" to them. I believe that
Jerry's approach in The Widower's Toolbox: How to Repair Your Life After Losing Your Spouse will contribute
to a niche for which there is little information available - practical suggestions and insight from someone who has been there.
A common request from a bereaved individual is: help me to know how to get through this. While the answers
to this must come from the bereaved themselves, I believe Jerry's information will assist others in finding their own
way through this very difficult time and offer a ray of hope."
- Lisa De Sieno - MSE, LPC Director
of Outreach, Unity Hospice "The Nation's Oldest Hospice Organization"
“ “Men never, never, ask for help (Schaefer) said. “Men find themselves grieving
alone.” … not only useful to widowers, but those who help widowers during the grieving process, such as funeral
directors, parish leadership, and even friends."
The Compass (WI)